Saturday, March 11, 2006

A Perfect lover....

Am I the only one who feels that KGP is having 'too much' about love these days?? Three people (on the last count) have already published at least one post on the cliched topic from my Department alone. And then this lovely senior of mine Souvik Adhya (2005, LLR, Instumentation- Schlumberger) tagged me. I would have generally not followed these rules but am doing so just because its him. Also, people have been complaining that I have not published a post since a long long time. This gives me a chance to make ammends.
Some weirdo came up with a set of rules which I faithfully publish (read Ctrl C + Ctrl V-ed) ...

  1. The tagged victim has to come up with 8 different points of their perfect lover
  2. You have to mention the sex of the target.
  3. Tag 8 victims to join this game and leave a comment on their comments saying they've been tagged.
  4. If tagged the 2nd time, there's no need to post again.
My views:-
Sex- Female obviously
1) Intelligence. Most of our discussion shall revolve around this point because it is so closely related to what follows ahead. Its hard to talk to dumb women for more than say... Five sentences at a stretch. Intelligence is a turn on. Intelligent women have a certain attraction that I cannot put in words... but then I guess the point has been put through... so lets move on.
2) A great person to hang out with. I love having fun, going to music concerts, hanging out with friends. It is so very necessary that she should fit into my group. That would make things so very easy. Going on Treks; biking on mountains... sounds so very exciting.
3)Should realise that no one's perfect. Hence, should accept me the way I am. Its more important to respect each other's views than spending an entire lifetime in removing differences.
4) Should have a cute smile that makes my day ...
5) A great conversationalist.
6) Good at Humour.
7) Trustworthy, dependable and responsible.
8) LAst but certainly not the least. A very very very truthful person.

Now this is forSouvik , you've almost made me come up with a matrimonial ad.. thanks for reminding me that I am single :-) :-).
I am tagging along the following people Eesha, KT, Patil , Bharat, Anant Singh, Rohit Shankar, Bafna, Rishi Amrit

Friday, December 09, 2005

For My Parents

Today is my parents' Marriage Anniversary. Am very happy for them.

Marriage as an institution continues to amaze me a lot. Twenty three long years these guys spend with each other. Twenty one of those spent in bringing me up.

Kind of get the meaning of Rahman's Maa tujhe salam... BTW why dont they write songs for BAAP???

Love
BABA

My love My life

'Man made prisoner by the love of a woman and woman made prisoner by the love of a man are equally unfit for freedom's precious crown. But man and woman made as one by love – inseparable, indistinguishable – are verily entitled to the prize.'

Life is not always fair but it is your belief in whatever you do that carries you through. All this while I was afraid of committing mistakes, of losing all I had. I realise that its always nice to forgive and forget rather tha remember and cry.
I realise that the important thing in life is not to brood over mistakes but to learn from them.
Whenever something bad used to happen I always wanted to ask God that why me of all people? But did I do that when God was kind to me. When I lost something I felt bad about it but when I had got it at the first place did I ever ask God why me?

Happiness as someone rightly pointed out to me is the key to existence and not the bondages. To some i might sound as an escapist but the fact is that I have ceased being an escapist. I realise that when I face the world with confidence in my eyes I can only see people bow their heads.
I realise that I have been made for Bigger things in life(as they say it at KGP.) Apart from this I am born to love. I am indebted to my parents and a few lovely people and friends whom i met and who made me realise that life is absolutely nothing about love. And when u realise this u actually realise that love is unconditional. As unconditional as letting your loved one hate you and still love him/her.

My aim in life is to make a difference to the life of every person I meet in a very special way. Over the time I have learnt to respect other people's feelings and understand their emotions.

I still remember a very very nice line from the speech of our director( whic incidentally was taken from some book :)) )
" Let it not be said of you that you walked a path and left no imprint"

I know nothing is forever. Not even me. All I want is that when God decides that the time on the earth for this mortal is over , I already have done a lot for people and they remember me a lot.
I plan to have a company one day which I most surely will. I also plan to have an NGO to support the poor and the needy and spread love. because i realise that most valuable thing I can give to people is my love and compassion and I have an infinte amount of it stored in me.

Orkut also asks me to address the question of me being single or committed. I am single. Yet committed to the welfare of all those who define me.
I am not a philanthropist all I do has a selfish motive also. It gives me immense satisfaction.



PS: to all those who feel life is cruel ( I did at a point of time) never forget that worse things happen to people. Life is beautiful. Have faith in God. I myself sometimes doubt it but I know there is something that keeps me going. That transformed me from a weakling to a Man who know what he wants. And the whole world steps aside for the man who knows where he is going.
Love and Luck to all my friends always. You all are my strength and well you all are also my weakness!

Tuesday, October 25, 2005

Musings

Man is born in slavery. We are born as slaves unto ourselves. We come into the world with chains of desire. Very subtle chains bind us. Slavery comes with birth. It is given by nature. We don't have to earn it. Man finds himself enslaved. But freedom has to be earned. Only those who strive and struggle for it attain it. One has to pay the price for freedom. Whatever is valuable in life cannot be gotten free of cost. To acquire slavery from nature is not a misfortune. The misfortune is not to earn freedom. To be born a slave is not bad, but to die only as a slave is certainly bad. Nothing brings significance and fulfillment in life unless you achieve your inner freedom. Those who are imprisoned by desires, those who have not known the free sky of awakening, they have life, but they remain deprived of knowing life. There is no difference between the lives of birds imprisoned in cages and souls Lying imprisoned in desires. One enters into the world of real life only when intelligence is free of desire.
If you want to know the divine, master yourself. Winning the divine kingdom is not for those who are defeated by themselves.
If one's eyes are open, then this whole life is a school. And one who is hungry to learn, learns from every person and from every situation. And remember, one who does not learn in this way, learns nothing in life. Emerson has said, "Each person I meet is better than me at one thing or another. I can learn something from him."
I remember a story. It happened in Mecca. A barber was giving someone a haircut. Just then the Sufi fakir, Junnaid, came in and said, "Can you cut my hair in the name of Allah?" Just hearing Allah's name, the barber said to his regular customer, "Friend, please just wait a little, I cannot cut your hair right now. I have to attend to that fakir for allah. Allah's work comes first." After this he cut Junnaid's hair with great love and devotion, then respectfully bade him farewell.
A few days later when someone had given Junnaid money, he went to give some to the barber. But the barber wouldn't take any money, saying, "Have you no shame? You had said to cut your hair in the name of Allah, not for money!"
And his whole life Junnaid used to say to his disciples, "It was from a barber that I learned unselfish love and devotion."
Even in the lowest, vast messages are hidden. One who knows how to uncover them, becomes wise. Move with awareness in life and every experience brings intelligence. One who remains unconscious, returns even the light that comes to his door.

Sunday, September 25, 2005

Kids n all!

One of our fellow blogger asked a question... I was desperately looking for answers..
Then I cane across this picture. I guess it says it all!
Cheers!

Sunday, August 14, 2005

Seeds Of Wisdom

LAST NIGHT a man breathed his last. Today people mourn at his door. At such moments a memory of an event in my childhood arises in my mind. It was my first visit to the burning ghats. The funeral pyre had been lit, and the people were chatting in small groups. The village poet said, "I am not afraid of death. Death is a friend." Since then I have heard this same assertion in different forms from different people. I have also looked into the eyes of those who say this and have found that these fearless words arise from fear.
Nothing changes just by giving death beautiful names. In fact, the fear is not of death, the fear is of the unfamiliar. What is unknown creates fear in us. It is necessary to become acquainted with death. This acquaintance brings one to fearlessness. Why? -- because it is through acquaintance that one comes to know that there is no death to what is.
It is only the personality, which we have taken to be our "I", that shatters, that dies. It shatters because it is not. It is only a combination, a union of a few elements. As this union disintegrates, the personality shatters. This is what death is. Hence, as long as personality is taken to be one and the same as the true self, there is death.
Move deeper from the personality, and as you arrive at the true self, the deathless is attained.
The path of this journey, the penetration from the surface of personality to the core of the self, is religion.
It is in samadhi, enlightenment, that acquaintance with death happens. Just as darkness ceases to exist the moment the sun rises, so does death when samadhi is attained.
Death is neither an enemy nor a friend, it simply does not exist. One needs neither to fear it nor not fear it. One has only to know it. Ignorance of it is fear, knowing it is fearlessness.
I went to a temple. The crowd of worshippers was engaged in worshipping the deity. The devotees were bowing down before the idols. An elderly man who had come with me said, "Nowadays people do not have faith in religion. So very few people visit the temples."
I said, "Where is the religion in a temple? What a self- deceiver man is! He deceives himself by taking as gods the idols created by his own hands. He satisfies himself by taking the scriptures -- the product of his own mind -- as truth." Whatsoever is the creation of man's own hands and mind is not religion. The idols sitting in the temples are not images of gods but of man himself. And what is written in the scriptures is but a reflection of man's own desires and thinking, not the truth seen within. It is not possible to express the truth in words.
It is not possible to have an idol of truth, because truth is boundless, infinite and formless. It has no form, no name, no attribute. The moment it is given a form it disappears.
In order to attain it, all idols and all physical conceptions have to be dropped; the whole cobweb of self-fabricated fallacies has to be swept away. That uncreated truth reveals itself only when man's consciousness is liberated from the prison which his own mind has created .
We should drop our obsession with the form so that the formless may enter. The moment the manifest leaves our minds, the unmanifest appears.
It was there already, but it was hidden beneath the idols and the tangible. Just as we cannot see the empty space in a room stuffed with things -- remove those things and the empty space is revealed; it has always been there.
Truth too is like this. Empty the mind and it is there.
I HEARD a discourse this morning. It happened unintentionally. A so-called saint was speaking and I was passing that way when I heard him say, "The way to be religious is to be God-fearing. Only one who fears God is religious. It is fear that brings one to love God. There is no loving without fear. Love is impossible in the absence of fear."
Usually, those who are called religious are religious because of fear. Those who are called moral are also bound to fear.
Kant has said, "Even if there is no God, still it is necessary to accept him." Perhaps that is because the fear of God makes people good.
When I hear such statements, I cannot help laughing. Perhaps nothing else is so mistaken and untrue.
Religion has nothing to do with fear. Religion is born out of fearlessness.
It is impossible for love to co-exist with fear. How can fear give birth to love? Out of fear, only the pretense of love can be born. And what else but non-love can exist behind a counterfeit love? Love born out of fear is an impossibility.
Hence, religiousness and morality based on fear are false, not true. They weigh down, rather than elevate, the energy of the soul. Religion and love cannot be imposed on oneself, they have to be kindled and aroused within.
Truth is not founded on fear. Fear does not support the truth, it is opposed to it. The foundation-stone of truth is fearlessness.
The true flowers of religion and love can be grown only in the soil of fearlessness. Those planted in the soil of fear can only be artificial.
The realization of God happens only in fearlessness. Or to put it more correctly, the realization of fearless consciousness is the realization of God. The moment all fear disappears from the mind, what happens in that moment is the encounter with truth.

Monday, August 08, 2005

Love: Live ur life!

Love
Osho speaks on a passage from one of his favorite books, The Book of Mirdad:
'Man made prisoner by the love of a woman and woman made prisoner by the love of a man are equally unfit for freedom's precious crown. But man and woman made as one by love – inseparable, indistinguishable – are verily entitled to the prize.'
'If love is understood as the meeting of two souls, not just a sexual, biological meeting of male and female hormones, then love can give you great wings, it can give you great insights into life. And lovers can become for the first time friends.' - Osho
I have been wanting to write about this for a long long time. However, this puts me to lots of unease and that might be evdident in the first few lines. This unease is not because the emotion is unknown to me but because i have always tried to come across as a very stoic character.Love,however, has been a very integral part of my life always. My tryst with Zen buddhism has made this even stronger.Before i go further please take and time to read these lines. These lines show the influence of my mentor Arvind chauhan, my physics teacher,guru and friend.
" Teachings are the understanding of one individual.
teachings are guidelines by someone who has travelled the path before
Teachings are not enlightenment,
they are the experiences of another individual"
while my aim is not to make the discussion very spiritual (ironically love and spirituality cannot be seperated). the only point i want to stress is that love is a very beautiful emotion. Yet every one has his own set of experiences and beliefs. And it is your liberty to believe in me or not.
My tryst with love has been a very interesting one.
For me love is the courage to open my heart. The ability to give and recieve.when u love all the fear dissapears. When u are afraid all the love dissapears. Love has no bounds. (How can it have bounds???) Do u think twice before u admire the beauty of a dew drop sitting on a leaf.
when u feel at one with existence this is love.
And believe me being able to love someone is a great quality. Not every one can love in a selfless manner. (Actually everyone can but the social conditioning is too much to allow us to love)
Do u not get immersed in the beauty of the nature and forget everything! U have had these loving moments with the nature because you have never expected anything from nature, atleast at that very moment. What then stops us from loving humans! Why does a man always want to earn more than the woman he supposedly 'loves'! Love demands mutual respect not ego. since our society is full of fools who cannot love, it had created rituals like marriage. while marriage is a wonderful way of celebrating a commitment, the beauty of the ceremony cannot be realised till true love and commitment is there.
But sadly lust drives marriage more than love does. People have always pointed to me that love marriages fail. I ALways feel that the person whom you love, you will always be ready to do anything for him/her, u'll forgive him always as long as love is there. So love marriages never fail. the only things that fail are the agreements made in the name of love. Love is a very confusing thing. my writing discourses can never explain to you what love is. You have to love to feel what love is. Next time u see a rainbow look for the beauty as u did when u were a child and u will know exactly what love is. U shall never fail in love then!
Lemme now address the fears of those who fear to propose... to the ones they love..I can understand... the fear is natural. Don't try to avoid it and don't try to suppress it. Don't try to forget it, otherwise it will be difficult to get over it. Accept it -- it is natural. It is absolutely natural going back to old friends and not being the old person at all. Your friends will be very much in confusion about how to relate to you, because we get accustomed to a certain pattern
Feel free to contact me always with your comments.With love to all!